OUR ROOT
“And if ye be Christ's, then are ye Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise”. Galatians 3:28
We are gathered in the name Christ, as believers, Christians. If you are of Christ, you can trace your root to Abraham. As believers in Christ, we can trace our ancestral lineage to Abraham.
The
single-phase is considered as;
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Foundational phase
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Preparatory phase and
- Learning phase
Values of our family
lineage
To make the most of one’s future, you have to go back to your lineage and see what transpired in order to forge forward. In the scriptures, Abraham and Sarah were the only couples He only made reference to. Isaiah 51:1-2. God declared that He called Him and blessed him and the blessings of the Lord makes rich and added no sorrow-Prov. 10:22. In the same light that God called Abraham and blessed him, so He wants to do for you.
“That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises”. Hebrews 6:12.
Let’s see what is
applicable to us as singles.
Genesis 12:1-3, (Genesis 24:1-67) from this scripture, Abraham was both the biological and spiritual figure in the life of Isaac). The marital choice for a life partner is spiritual and it will be messed up if you are not spiritual.
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Abraham remembered the covenant he had with his God-He prayed
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Abraham made his servant swear he would not make his son marry from the land he
came
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Rebecca was a virgin and it is particular to God what you are described as
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The final choice of who to marry is yours; however, you will be guided and counselled
You
are the one that gives people the right to speak into your life
The ancient landmarks must not be removed. You have to know the values you are to hold to take you through this journey as singles.
Matt.
1:18-19 (See Mary)
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They followed the same spiritual procedure- it followed from the spirit to the
physical. If your spiritual eyes are closed, you can’t get the right person for
you
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They were prayerful
- There was no sex before marriage
You can have certain feelings for the opposite sex but the procedure you embrace to deal with it is what matters. See 2 Samuel 13:1-
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As a lady, if you engage in sex outside of marriage, you are devaluing yourself
and it brings shame to you.
- When it comes to the man, you are seen as foolish; you become spiritually dull when you engage in sex outside of marriage.
A lady should not beg or coerce a man to marry her.
In marriage, three wills are involved, the will of God, the man and the woman. However, the man must take the initial step.
- There was strict adherence to spirit inspired instructions against. Why would Jacob work an extra seven years for the lady he loves? He had to strictly adhere to the terms of the covenant, to the word of God.
As
singles, in order to have a glorious future like your father Abraham, you must
not tamper with the ancient landmarks. You must not tamper with the terms of
the covenant.
HOW
PREPARED ARE YOU?
In
these times we are in, and in places like America, Europe… it’s no longer news
for couples to divorce and remarry up to three, four times. This trend had
gradually crept into the church and funny enough, we now have scriptures and
psychological reasons to authenticate it. Those giving these reasons are highly
celebrated and accepted and you know when an authority does something, it
becomes automatically justified and right.
These
days, it’s so easy to see couples who come for counselling getting a divorce
after a few months of marriage, one year, two or even thirty years. Some are
even secretly getting divorced and the interesting thing about these is that
you are aware of how they got married, how they started and how they fought
tooth and nail to be together. As for you (single) who have not started the
journey (into marriage), if you can get it right before you start, you are
better off. You must make up your mind that once in, there’s no going back. An attempt to go back is to be destroyed. Your
only option is to move forward with God helping you
“….And
Jesus answered and said unto them, take heed that no man deceive you” Mt.
23:24.
We
are in a time of high level of deception and Jesus is admonishing us to be
alert and not be ignorant, because Satan is in the business of causing deception, distraction and discouragement.
These are the three D’s of Satan.
“And it came to pass,
that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came
into the Coast of Judaea beyond the Jordan; And great multitude followed him;
and he healed them there.
The Pharisees also
came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, is it lawful for a man to put
away his wife for every cause?
And Jesus answered and
said unto them, have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made
them male and female. And said, for this cause shall a man leave father and
mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. What
therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder”. Mt. 19:1-6.
In
other words, what Jesus was saying here is that it is only God that can put
asunder what He has joined. David had this understanding when he refused to
kill Saul after the several opportunities he had to do so. He understood that
it was God who put him there and so, it would only take God to remove him. By
so doing, David was honouring God.
“They said unto him,
why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her
away?
He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so”. Mt. 19:7-8.
The
Pharisees wanted to trap Jesus in order to justify their actions, but Jesus made
them to understand that from the beginning, it was not so. This means from the
beginning, in God’s original intent there was no such plan. The beginning
remains the standard. Jesus was simply saying He came to bring order to the
distortion that had crept in while the devil was on the scene. He came to
remove the hardness in men’s heart and give them hearts of flesh.
Marriage
was ordained and set up by God. It was the only institution God set in place
before the fall of man. God gave man dominion after He made him and gave him
authority over all but man lost his position to Satan but Jesus came to right
the situation. As a matter of fact, His first miracle was in a marriage
ceremony. Until Satan entered the home, his effect in the society couldn’t be
seen. The home is God’s strong point and because Satan knows this too, it
remains his focus. But Jesus came to change the focus and the concept of
marriage. Once Satan succeeds in getting at your marriage, he has taken your
life.
The
rate at which couples are saying with ease they want a divorce is becoming
rampant. And it is not just ordinary. There are some demonic activities
hovering in the air. So we must raise an alarm fast. The truth is that the
present-day believers are not ready to weather any storm.
Marriage
is a covenant that involves God (the principal party), the man and the woman.
Those who understand covenant know that you don’t just back out of covenants
anyhow. They know that you don’t take covenant terms for granted once it has
been enacted especially a covenant that involves blood.
The
Gibeonites deceived the Israelites and they entered into a covenant with them when they later discovered, it was already too late no matter how they felt at
the time. A covenant has been entered into. The Israelites were impatient. They
should have checked properly with God. (Josh. 9) In spite of all this, they had
to respect the covenant because it involved God and was now binding. The fact
that you were deceived to get married is no excuse; the fact that you were told
a lie is no excuse. You have married, you are married. If you know you cannot
love and truly respect the man you want to marry, then don’t marry him because
when you begin to disregard him, you are actually disregarding God. If you know
you can’t put up with her excuses, weakness or lapses, don’t marry her because
when you become irritated because of the things you will be seeing later, you
are dishonouring God.
Years
later, during the reign of David, there arose a famine and when David sought
the Lord, God told him it was because of Saul who killed the Gibeonites. And in
order for the famine to stop, the Gibeonites requested that some of Saul’s
descendants be killed also. (2 Sam.21:1-9)
The
fact that you no longer have feelings for your spouse is no excuse. You are in
a covenant. Besides, feelings are subject to change. Thus, in marriage, there’s
no room for divorce or separation. Divorce simply means separation and
separation is in diverse phases and levels. God declared in Mal.2 that He hates
divorce. And if a man embraces what God hates, he will only attract God’s
wrath.
As
a single, you have to resolve that before you start, you must count the cost to
see if you can finish. It is not trial and error. When you call off an
engagement, you’ve done nothing wrong but if you break off a marriage covenant,
it brings destruction. The decision to get married and stay married is a major
decision and it is for life. The decision to get married must be done with:
1.
Care
2.
Serious prayers
3.
Proper godly counsel
When
you don’t do these things properly, you may end up in deception. You may
suddenly discover that the man is not as spiritual as you thought. Anyone who
can’t marry you the way you are is not meant for you. If you want to marry,
don’t hide your history or past from the one you want to marry. Take all the
time you want in order to be sure of the decision you want to make. When
you get married, there are several challenges that will confront you, so you
have to be sure. The fact that your marriage is the will of God does not mean
it will be void of challenges. (1 Cor.10:13)
If
you are not going to be a victim of the epidemic activities going on now, there
are some things you must deal with or get rid of. They are:
1.
Ignorance
– Listen to the right messages, read the right books, expose yourself to the
truth that will stabilize your heart ahead of time.
2.
Laziness
– Don’t be lazy in the place of seeking God. We are in the
times where Satan uses the activities of the day to drain us and at the end of
the day; we have no strength to pursue God. Men ought always to pray and not to
faint. (Lk.18:1)” PRAY SO THAT YOU WILL NOT FAINT”.
3.
Impatience
or hasty – Whatever God has, Satan presents a counterfeit. Satan uses
fear to neutralize faith, fear of the unknown. Fear makes us do wrong things
like taking a job we shouldn’t. Don’t rush into making a marital decision. It
must be through faith and patience. (Is. 28:16, Heb. 10:35-37,
Heb.6:12)
An adage says, “You don’t hurry to eat hot yam. The yam you may lose, your
mouth you may burn”.
4.
Pressure
– Until you can put these pressures where they belong; you
are not ready for marriage.
a. Parental
pressure – Wanting you to attain heights they would have loved to attain
but couldn’t, like having many children, get married early or late on certain
conditions.
WAY OUT:
Stand your ground on who you are by your lifestyle.
b. Societal
pressure – To be more acceptable in society, not be an outcast.
WAY OUT –
Fortify yourself in your true identity in Christ
c. Emotional or
Psychological pressure – Loneliness, low self-esteem, shoulders to hang on,
sexual desire.
WAY OUT –
Strengthen your fellowship with God.
d. Financial
pressure – I need a roof over my head, somebody to pay my bills or assist
financially. Etc.
WAY OUT –
Learn contentment. Learn to look to and trust in God as your source.
e. Spiritual
pressure
– I need a prayer partner, somebody to charge me up
spiritually.
WAY OUT –
Develop your personal walk with God. Be properly planted in a sound church.
5.
Compromises
– Don’t compromise the word of God for anything. It will
backfire. Don’t compromise to marry. Your point of entrance (foundation) must
be right.
6.
Get rid of carnality and become
spiritually-minded. Rom.8:5-8. Don’t be a fleshy believer,
one who is dull spiritually, one who responds to feelings faster than respond
to God.
Four
Things You Must Develop and Build Yourself Into
1.
Develop a strong spiritual depth. Is. 37:31. How far you will go is determined
by how deep your root is.
2.
Develop a sound spiritual company. The purpose of this kind of company is:
a. Accountability
b. Development. If you really want
to know a man, check out the kind of company he keeps. Be in a good church,
build relationships whereby people can speak into your life. One of the reasons
that made Daniel great was the kind of company he kept. Have genuine friends.
3.
Develop strong spiritual values – such as learning contentment.
4. Have a clear cut spiritual direction- if you don’t know where you are going, others will take you their own way. Don’t just face any direction. When you know where you are going, nothing can distract or take your attention.
ON WHAT KIND OF FOUNDATION?
“Whosoever
cometh to me and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he
is like:
He
is like a man which built an house and digged deep and laid the foundation on a
rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house and
could not shake it, for it was founded upon a rock.
But
he that heareth, and doeth not, is like a man that without a foundation built
an house upon the earth; against which the stream did beat vehemently, and
immediately it fell; and the ruin of that house was great.” Luke 6:47-49.
Amplifying this story, two persons
are referred to here. Both built houses and finished, they probably dedicated
and furnished their houses. And by all standards, they would be referred to as
house owners, but there was just one unseen, unnoticed thing that
differentiated one from the other, which was the FOUNDATION of each building.
When the unexpected showed up, the tide turned, opposition arose, the house on
earth (sand) collapsed, but that which was built on rock stood.
My question to you SINGLE is, on
what kind of FOUNDATION are you building your life and future?
“For
other foundation can no man lay that is laid which is Jesus Christ.” 1 Corinthians 3:11.
So Jesus Christ is the only TRUE
FOUNDATION and Jesus is the word of God confirming the earlier scriptures.
However, whatever is TRUE will always have a fake or false. In other words,
there could be FALSE FOUNDATIONS such as family name or reputation, human
connections and promises, qualification, achievements, ability, fear,
circumstances, experiences etc. You build on a false foundation when any of
these becomes your driving force, reason and basis for your actions, decisions
or judgement instead of the word of God.
“Nevertheless
the foundation of God standeth sure…
2 Timothy 2:19.
If the foundation of God which is the foundation of the word of God, of Jesus Christ is SURE, it means then that any other foundation is not just false or fake but also unsure. It also means that you have the responsibility to make sure that you don’t build your life and future on a weak, false, fake and unsure foundation. What makes it very dangerous is that the consequences are not immediate, it waits at the end. There is no better time to be sure of the foundation than now so that your efforts and journey will not be in vain and your expectations shattered.
You can see that the times are
getting tougher, harder and more unpredictable. Only the hard and tough will
stand. The shaking has begun and it is only the life and future founded on the
rock (the word of God) that will stand.
How do I lay a proper foundation?
1. Be born again – John 3:3. You must not assume. Be sure.
2.
Fellowship with God –Build and develop a personal, intimate relationship with
God through the word of God and prayers. Until you begin to relate with God
personally, your born again experience doesn’t have real meaning. John 3:5.
3.
Train yourself to grow in obedience to the word of God. That is, making deliberate effort to apply,
do the word of God on a daily basis and on every issue. Luke 6:47-49 – James 1:22-25
4.
Have and keep a RIGHT HEART. For as long as your heart is right before God, you
can’t miss Him. You keep doing this by watching or making your heart only
accommodate godly information through the in-gates of the eyes and ears (Prov.4:23). Another way is to keep
consecrating and surrendering your heart to God in prayers.
Psalm 136:23-24, Genesis 20:1-7.
5. Learn to seek God and receive a clear word from God on major issues that may not be spelt out in the word like relocation, choice of a life partner etc. You can ask LOT, RUTH and JACOB, their experiences may be of help.
AS YOU PREPARE
“And Elisha came to Damascus and Ben-Hadad the king of Syria was sick,
and it was told him, saying the man of God is come hither. And the king said
unto Hazael, take a present in thine hand, and go, meet the man of God, and
enquire of the Lord saying, shall I recover of this disease? And Elisha said
unto him, go say unto him, thou mayest certainly recover, howbeit the Lord hath
showed me that he shall surely die. And he settled his countenance steadfastly,
until he was ashamed and the man of God wept. And Hazael said, why weepeth my
lord? And he answered, because I know the evil that thou wilt do unto the
children of Israel, their strongholds wilt thou set on fire and their young men
wilt thou slay with the sword, and wilt dash their children, and rip up their
women with child. And Hazael said, but what is thy servant a dog, that he
should do this great thing? And Elisha answered, the Lord showed me that thou
shalt be king over Syria.” 2 Kings
8:7-13
In this account, we see a man by name Hazael who never knew he would
be king though being a servant at the time. The prophecy came to him as a
surprise because the contents were strange (evil). His response was “AM I A
DOG” to do this evil only for him to actually live out the prophecies from
verse 15. (2Kings 10:32, 13:1-5) You
must understand that when prophecies come like that from God, it is because He
expects you to do something about it.
WHAT TO DO
WITH PROPHECIES
Ø Test the spirit behind the prophecy (1Jn
4:1-2) and the basis for carrying out the test is the Word of God. It will
not run contrary to the Word of God. When prophecies come from God, even when
it is a warning about an evil event, it will always leave you with hope or a
way of escape when there is repentance.
Ø Don’t despise the prophecy once you are certain it is from God. Don’t think like Hazael who
thought he couldn’t commit this evil forgetting that God knew him more than he
knew himself. (1Thess. 5:20)
Ø War with them (1Tim.1:18). We have been taught to war with good to come to pass. You can also war to reverse the bad to become good like King Hezekiah did. (Is.38:1-8) I strongly believe this was what Hazael ought to have done. Curses can be reversed to blessings in warfare. (Deut.23:5)
However, from this discourse, as you prepare for KINGSHIP which could represent marriage, profession, future etc, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO? Prophecy or no prophecy, please note of warning, don’t look for prophecies, satan could take advantage of you through that. Let God decide if He wants to reach out to you through prophecy. You already have a more sure word of prophecy (the Word of God). 2 Peter 1:20-21
Ø Don’t make assumptions. (1Cor.10:1-12, Mt.25:1-13)
Don’t THINK you are standing, KNOW (be sure) you are standing in the
Lord. Be sure of what you carry on the inside, know.
Ø Be sure of your foundation. Again, be sure the foundation upon which you are building your life,
future, today etc is the Lord because that’s the foundation that will stand the
test of time. Ask yourself, who is commanding my every step, why am I doing
what I am doing? (2Tim.2:19 – Lk.6:47-49)
Ø Make adequate preparations. It is often said that failure to prepare is preparing to fail. This was what happened to Hazael. Please don’t just allow the day (wedding, promotion, future) meet you unprepared. PREPARE in prayers, studies, interactions, learning etc. Even our master and role model, Jesus, took time to prepare for His future on earth. (Lk.2:44, 46,51)
My prayer for you is that you will not only sit on your God-ordained throne but you will reign to His glory. So heed counsel now. Shalom!
THE SURE FOUNDATION
We
live in an era, a time where it looks like anything and everything goes. It
looks like integrity doesn’t count or matter, that purity, righteousness is old
fashioned. But have you discovered that when the chips are down, everyone seems
to look for or turn to a man of integrity?
You
see guys who sleep around with girls, play around and have fun (so it seems to
them), when it’s time to settle down, they want to settle for a marriageable,
homely, decent, chaste lady and not the one they have been sleeping around
with. Even those no one can trust seem to be interested in only those they can
trust. All these go to show that it doesn’t matter how we live, what we have
chosen to believe and practice. The truth remains the truth, certain virtues,
values still makes the difference. And they go a long way to define and
determine your future.
In
the bible, which remains our only genuine reference point, from the very first
book to the latter books, you will see descriptions like these; “And the damsel
was very fair to look upon, a virgin neither had any man known her…” Gen. 24:16
“Now
the name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife was Abigail: and she
was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance, but the man
was churlish and evil in his doings and he was of the house of Caleb”. 1 Sam.
25:3
The
point here is that for these virtues to be pointed out clearly means that they
are important before God and man. And like I said earlier, they define and
determine your outcome. So, dearly beloved, it doesn’t matter the generally
accepted practice or pressure you are under or whatever experience you have
had, be fully persuaded that righteousness, purity, integrity, love still pays
and counts and you must remain wholeheartedly committed to them no matter the
situation or condition. It’s the only sure foundation that any meaningful,
lasting and fulfilling life can be built upon.
“Nevertheless
the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, the Lord knoweth them
that are his. And, let everyone that nameth the name of Christ depart from
iniquity”. 2 Timothy 2:19
If
you are of God then you must stay pure, righteous, do right, live right
according to the standards of God. “Say ye to the righteous, that it shall be
well with him…” Isaiah 3:10. This charge is not to everyone but to the one
doing and living right.
“Mark
(note) the perfect man, and behold (see) the upright (committed to doing and
living right according to God’s standard) for the end of that man (male/female)
is peace (well, fulfillment”) Psalm 37:37- Emphasis mine.
THE TRANSLATION AND THE PROCESS
We have taught that,
The
single-phase represents;
1)
Foundational phase
2) Preparatory
phase
3) Learning/discovery phase.
- Foundational phase. The quality and longevity of a building are tied to the foundation. Instead of being in a hurry to leave this phase, take the time to make sure you are laying a solid foundation.
- Preparatory phase. Your performance can never be above your level of preparation. The kind of performance you expect can be seen in the kind of preparation you embark on.
- Learning or discovery phase. Knowledge does not jump on you. You have to deliberately seek to know.
The major problems/crisis people face is usually rooted in;
- Wrong foundation or weak foundation, eg get married to someone, reading a course because of societal expectation, parental instruction etc
- Wrong choices such as career, location etc
- Wrong point of entrance e.g falsifying your age to get a job. What doesn’t come to you, the way you are is not of God.
When crisis comes, you are not the only one that will be affected by it.
- Sisters, anybody that wants to marry you should be able to lead you spiritually.
John 12:24- “verily, verily, I say unto you, except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone : but if it dies, it bringeth forth much fruit”.
This is the process - death, burial and resurrection. There is no resurrection until there is death. The real challenge with us is that we do not want to die. We do not want to make that transition. Jesus became King of Kings and Lord of Lords because He went through this process.
- Identity crisis is still one major issue to date. Adam fell because of an identity crisis. Once there’s confusion about who you really are, there’s a serious crisis. Nobody should look at you and be in doubt as to who you really are. Everything about your life is revealing who you are. If you are a Christian, be one indeed, stop hanging on the fence. You cannot want to be a "chic", and a sister at the same time.
- As a single, there’s a death, burial and resurrection process you must go through if your life will make meaning.
- You must be delivered from an identity crisis. Paul understood this when he stated he wasn’t ashamed of the gospel of Jesus Christ. It was from that premise; he was able to magnify his office as an Apostle to the Gentiles.
You cannot enjoy the life of a believer in Christ until it dawns on you who you really are. You must be known as a Christian, - pure breed.
Two major areas this mistake is commonly made;
1-
The area of relationship
2- The area of money
These major mistakes show one is refusing, denying or resisting the translation and process. When you become born again, there is a translation that took place (Colossians 1:13) and there is a process you must go through in other to grow. Many times, some want to use Babylonian ways of getting the fruits of the kingdom.
It is not just age, feelings, status that qualifies you for marriage. It is maturity. And maturity is defined by the standard of God’s word. Don’t mistake age, feelings or status for maturity and don’t be deceived into thinking that ‘time will tell’. Time will not tell anything except what you have been doing with time is relevant and true.
- The most powerful tool in the hand of a man to get a woman is not money but words. All Adam declared upon sighting Eve was ‘this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh’.
“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”. Genesis 2:23-25.
From this verse of scriptures, we know that marriage is not for boys and girls, man and man, nor woman and woman but it is for a man and a woman. Thus, you must get God’s standard for marriage so that you are sure you are entering into it as a man or as a woman. There is no room for assumption in this matter. You have to be sure.
Who
is a Man?
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God”. 1 Cor. 11:3
A man is one who has Christ as His head. It is not all males that become men. To be a male is by birth, but to become a man is by choice. A man is not independent. He has mastered the headship of Christ and is ruled and governed by Christ.
Who
is a Woman?
A woman is one who has the characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman. Beauty is vain but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. A woman that fears the Lord will help you cooperate with God to avoid temptation and not aid you to fall for it. (See Psalm 128:1-6, Titus 2:1-6)
You cannot behave differently from what you have learnt because what you’ve learned will eventually, become your experience.
Consequently,
- The fact that you are a female doesn’t mean you are a woman
- That you are a male doesn’t mean you a man
All you need to do is meet up with God’s standard.
- Your greatest asset as a lady is not your looks but your character
- Your greatest asset as a man is your vision. You must know God to have a vision.
Thus, what should be your take-off point?
- Build your life on what will matter for life. Get it right.
“Who hath delivered us from the power of darkness, and hath translated us into the kingdom of his dear Son”. Col.1:13.
You were delivered from the kingdom of darkness to the kingdom of God, so you have to learn His thoughts and ways in order to line up with Him. Your first preoccupation should be to start learning the new way. Learn of Christ- it is a call to learn of Him. Don’t mix both kingdoms together. eg. Unlearn the language of the world and the kingdom of darkness and learn the language of the new kingdom-dress code, lifestyle etc. you have to unlearn all and embrace the new lifestyle of the kingdom of God etc. There’s deliverance, there’s a translation from one kingdom to another so you have to learn the ways of God in the new.
- If normalcy is not established, something successful cannot come out of it.
(See 1 Peter 2:1-2) The key to knowing anything is to be interested in it. There must be a desire to learn the new way, style, pattern etc. This is where the challenge is because many ignore the process.
“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God”. Romans 12:1-2.
Do not be in agreement with the world. Be known as a believer. Your mind must be renewed. Uninstall every worldly application and put on kingdom applications. Get soaked in God's word. Read Christian literature, listen to godly audio messages, music etc. As you grow, your priority will change.
It is through knowledge that the just shall be delivered. Sit down and learn what you should. Ask questions, consult the right persons. Learn to walk in genuine agape love towards the brethren. The way of love is the way of power.
“Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity”._1 Timothy 4:12. When you are in God, you will see God.
Prayer
I let go of my ways and embrace Your ways. Lord, I surrender to You.
DEALING WITH THE FOUR-HARASSMENT, HABIT, PRESSURE, ADDICTION
- a time of loneliness-u start thinking things you ought not to think about
- time of boredom-u don’t engage in activities you ought to be engaged in
- times of stress
- times of disappointment
- when you are looking for self pity when you feel you should be recognized, appreciated, seeking understanding etc. Moses fell victim to this
- insecurity
- complacent
- life transitions e.g you went to a new place when you knew nobody, moving from one place to another
- travelling times
- exposure to wrong materials through the television, internet, bad company, the things you see, hear has the ability to rule your life
- crisis times- financial, relational, academic etc
- in times of success- at those times, your guards are dropped. You are however most vulnerable when you are up and when you are down.
- Make up your mind, make a decision. Know that it’s possible to live sin free. Make a consecration. Job 31:1. Believe in your heart that you can make it.
- Be transparent. God is light, satan thrives in secrecy. Don’t be quiet about your struggles. Gen.2:25. Speak up, speak out
- Ask for help from those who could counsel you and pray for and with you.
- Ask to be held to strict accountability for daily actions and activity. Amnon was under pressure to commit fornication because of bad company. B.
- Make deliberate effort to build genuine relationship based on trust, confidence and accountability.
- Maintain a genuine fellowship with God. Don’t lose that daily communion with God.
- Don’t be complacent. One way to know whether you are becoming complacent is when godly people and ungodly discussions can take place where you are.
- Build healthy, genuine relationship. Gen. 1:26. God couldn’t execute His agenda in isolation.
- Expose time bombs in your life. They are unresolved issues, weaknesses, deep insecurity that makes you look to others for approval etc.
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